Being Nice to Others Makes Them More Likely to Be Nice to You

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People tend to reciprocate each other’s behavior.

New research confirms that when you’re nice to others, they’re more likely to be nice to you.

When two people meet for the first time, they tend to see the other person as having a similar personality to their own.

A friendly and sociable person will tend to see others as friendly and sociable. Someone who is shy and reserved will see those characteristics in others.

In the world of psychology, this is known as the “assumed similarity effect.” Psychologists have theorized people use their own personalities to fill in the blanks with someone they don’t know well.

Now researchers have proposed, tested, and found support for another contributing factor: people tend to reciprocate each other’s behavior. A person who acts friendly and sociable is more likely get the same in return.

In other words, people temporarily bring out behavior that is like their own personality, see that behavior, and infer that is what the other person is like. They dubbed the phenomenon the “perceiver-elicited similarity effect.”

Their study also found support for a dissimilarity effect: Assertive, dominant people bring out passive behavior in others, and passive people bring out assertive behavior.

“The idea is, people influence each other when they interact,” says coauthor Sanjay Srivastava, a professor at the University of Oregon. “They bring out behaviors in the other person that are in some ways predictably similar, and in others, predictably dissimilar.”

To test their theory, the psychologists conducted an experiment, adapting the procedure from one that lead author Bradley Hughes, a doctoral student, used when he was studying at the University of California, Berkeley. They recruited 322 students, split them into pairs, and asked them to review and jointly judge a series of photographs depicting works of art.

“We wanted people to interact and make these ratings and have a chance to influence each other,” Hughes says.

The participants assumed the roles of co-managers of an art gallery and were given 20 minutes to review 20 paintings and select three to hang in the gallery. Their interactions were videotaped.

Before completing the art gallery task, each participant completed self-reports of their personalities. Afterward, they returned to a private room and provided perception judgments of their partner. A team of research assistants then watched the videotaped interactions and rated and coded the participants’ behavior.

“The idea is that personality flows through interpersonal interactions, from who a person is, to how they act, to how others respond to them,” Hughes says.

“You go through life making people a little more like you,” Srivastava says. “The implication is, you have an interaction, you make people more like you, and you see that. This builds up over time. Your world view of what people are like is based on your own personality because of what you bring out in them.”

The study took about four years from conception to publication. The behavior coding part was “very labor intensive,” requiring teams of undergraduate research assistants to watch the videos and make structured ratings.

“You can influence your impressions of others by interacting with them,” Hughes says. “Everyday interactions change how you see people. Evidence of these effects opens doors for future studies exploring interpersonal influences on other social cognitive effects.”

The study appears in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

This article was originally published in Futurity. It has been republished under the Attribution 4.0 International license.

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